Erotic Underwear for Men: Where to Start & Try

There is a certain kind of underwear you do not buy for a Monday morning. You buy it for the nights you have been looking forward to, the ones where you want to feel like the main event before anyone has even seen you.

That is what erotic underwear is for. The trouble is that a lot of guys want to try it and have no idea where to begin, so they either grab something far too bold on the first go and never wear it, or they talk themselves out of it entirely.

At Bill and Brandon, sexy is sort of the whole point, so consider this your friendly starting guide. Here is what erotic underwear actually means, where to start if you are new to it, and how to build up to the bolder stuff at your own pace.

WHAT COUNTS AS EROTIC UNDERWEAR?

Erotic underwear is simply underwear built to be seen rather than hidden. Regular underwear does a job and disappears. Erotic underwear is designed to show you off, whether that is through less coverage, sheer fabric, a bolder cut, or a pouch that puts everything front and center.

People sometimes assume erotic means uncomfortable, or that it is only for a very particular kind of confident. Neither is true. A good pair should feel great on, and the confidence tends to arrive the moment you put it on rather than being something you need beforehand.

The other thing worth saying is that there is no single right level. Erotic underwear runs from a cheeky little peek all the way to leaves nothing to the imagination, and where you land on that scale is entirely up to you and the mood you are in.

WHERE TO START: THE JOCKSTRAP

If you are dipping a toe in, the jockstrap is the perfect first step. It is bold enough to feel like a proper change from your everyday drawer, but it still gives you a full, supportive front pouch, so nothing feels too exposed while you get used to it.

The magic is in the back. Those elasticated straps frame the bum and leave it on display, which is exactly why the jockstrap went from the gym to the bedroom and never looked back. Our jockstraps come in enough colors and cuts to keep things interesting, and a classic pair is a great way to test the water.

Wear one under your regular clothes for a night out and you get a little secret that only you know about, at least to start with. That is a surprisingly good way to build confidence before anyone else is involved.

THE THONG: MINIMAL, AND MORE COMFORTABLE THAN YOU THINK

Once the jockstrap feels natural, the thong is the obvious next move. It is the most minimal thing in the drawer, with a full front pouch and next to nothing at the back, and it is the piece most first-timers are nervous about for no real reason.

Here is the bit nobody tells you. A thong is genuinely comfortable once you have worn it for an hour, and it solves the very real problem of visible lines under anything tight. Our Thong in black is a great place to start, plain, sleek, and about as classic as this style gets.

Prefer a fraction more coverage while you adjust? A G-string or a cheekier brief cut sits somewhere between a jock and a full thong, so you can dial the exposure up or down until you find your comfort level.

TURNING IT UP: SHEER AND MESH

Now for the fabric that does the heavy lifting. Sheer mesh is the easiest way to make any style instantly more erotic, because it technically covers you while hiding almost nothing. It is the definition of leaving a little to the imagination and not much more.

A mesh brief is a brilliant entry point here, since the shape is familiar and it is the see-through fabric doing all the work. Our Beast Brief in white mesh gives you that barely there look with a snug, body-defining fit, so you get the tease and the shape in one.

From there you can take mesh in any direction you like, from briefs and boxers to sheer thongs. It also happens to be light and breathable, so it feels as good as it looks, which is never a bad combination.

GOING BOLD: THE BEAST STYLES

When you are ready to make a real statement, this is the deep end, and it is a fun place to be. The boldest cuts are about presence, a confident, body-defining fit and a look that is built to command attention.

This is where our Beast and Bulge range earns its place. It is the boldest, most body-defining line we make, cut for a snug, confident fit, so you walk in already feeling like the best version of yourself. A Beast Brief in black is the sort of pair you save for a night that matters.

Pair a bold cut with a sheer fabric and you have hit the top of the scale. That is erotic underwear doing exactly what it is meant to, which is making you feel unstoppable before the night has even started.

HOW TO CHOOSE YOUR FIRST PAIR

If you take one thing from all this, make it this. The sexiest pair is the one you feel good in, not the boldest one on the page. Confidence is the thing people actually notice, and no amount of mesh fakes it if you are not comfortable.

So start where you feel ready. Pick a jockstrap or a simple thong for a first buy, wear it somewhere low-stakes, and let it grow from there. Match the pair to the occasion too, since a first date, a big night and a lazy weekend all call for slightly different energy.

And do not overthink the sizing. If you are unsure, size up rather than squeezing in, because comfort is what lets the confidence show.

FIND YOUR CONFIDENCE

Erotic underwear is not one scary leap. It is a scale you climb at your own pace, from a first jockstrap to sheer mesh to the boldest thing in the drawer, and every step of it should feel like a treat rather than a dare.

Whenever you are ready to start, our range of erotic underwear for men covers every step on that scale, from your first jock to your boldest night out. If you want to see how the different cuts compare before you commit, our go-to guide to underwear styles lays it all out.

We are a UK brand with discreet, eco-friendly packaging, daily dispatch and more than 500 reviews from happy customers, with most single styles at £22.99. Have a browse of the full range, check the FAQs if you are unsure on sizing, or get in touch and we will help you find your fit.